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3 Surefire Ways To Find Your Perfect Mentor
Instead of asking yourself, “How do you find a mentor?” I believe your mentor actually finds you. Most people think it doesn’t matter where you started. You think, “I want to be successful. I want to make more money,” whatever goals that you have. Instead of approaching your potential mentors as, “You are successful, you should help me. Poor little me,” don’t approach it like that. Approach as how it can add value to their lives. Always give first before you ask anything in return.
When looking for a mentor, let’s say we take you out of the picture, how do you know if they are in just to be a guru and sell you crap or if they actually are able to help you?
You don’t. For single people, how do you go on a date that that’s going to be the one? You just don’t know, but you will find out pretty quickly. You look at their stuff and you connect with them. Are they being helpful? Are they actually helping you? If you can see it is helpful, then you continue the relationship. The good thing about this type of relationship versus like a marriage is if it doesn’t work, you can stop at any time. You can stop calling them, you can stop asking them questions. I think it’s not being afraid to ask. I finished an interview with a gentleman called Dale. He is a very successful serial entrepreneur. His company is doing about $50 million, $60 million a year, raised about $100 million. At the end of the interview I said, “Dale, can I ask you some stuff? Can I hire you? Can you be my mentor?” He said, “Dan, I’m quite busy but if you need help, I’ll be your mentor.” I just asked. I said, “I’m more than happy to pay you.”
I pay my mentors. It’s not so much that your mentor doesn’t need your money. Paying them is some skin in the game and they know you’re serious. It’s just like I have probably now a dozen entrepreneurs, they pay me $1,000 a month, one hour of my time every month. I don’t need the money, but if they pay the $1,000, I know that they’re serious and they’re going to implement what I teach them. That’s totally fine. I do that a little bit in my spare time. Don’t be afraid to invest in a mentor. I buy my mentor gifts. My mentor, Dan Peña, on his 70th birthday, I sent him a nice gift. How can you expect your mentor to invest in a relationship when you don’t even spend time and effort into a relationship?Always give first before you ask anything in return. Click To Tweet
I learned from my mentor, never go to mentor with a sense of entitlement. I see this on YouTube a lot when they comment, “Dan, I watched a video. Help me out. I have a question. Help me out.” Why should I help you out? Not that I don’t want to help you out, but you don’t even get the basics of business. Any business interruption, the first thing you should ask is, “How can I add value? How could I add value to my mentor?” Of all the mentors that I have, I added value to their lives. I ask them, “How could I help you?” The first mentor I had, if you watch any one of my work, you know Allen, I worked for him for next to nothing for one year. The second mentor, I pay him tens of thousands of dollars to learn from. I invest in myself. I’m not paying my mentor. I’m not investing my mentor. I’m investing in myself through my mentor. You have to understand that. Whatever it takes, you’ve got to bring value to the table. Just because someone is successful, they have absolutely no obligation to help you succeed when you don’t help yourself.